Painful emotions are a natural phenomenon of life. When you try to suppress them and bury them under the rug, the result is that the emotions you’re trying to avoid experiencing only multiply.
When you give yourself the permission to experience painful emotions, you also open yourself up to the experience of positive emotions as well.
As a university student, it can sometimes feel like you need perfect grades, a full co-curricular record, and a packed calendar of parties and events. But part of wellness involves accepting that you can’t be perfect. Let go of your self-judgment and replace it with kindness and understanding.
If you would show compassion for a loved one who was going through a hard time, why not show that same compassion towards yourself?
If you want support with being kinder to yourself, getting in touch with yourself through yoga and more, check out the Office of Religious and Spiritual Life!
- Do I set unrealistic goals, and am I angry with myself when I don’t reach them?
- Do I respond poorly to criticism?
- Do even small mistakes seem like disasters?
- Do I abandon things quickly when I can’t live up to my expectations?
- Do I get so anxious about being perfect that I procrastinate from starting things at all?
- Rather than ignoring your anxiety, fear or feelings of inadequacy, stop and tell yourself, “this is hard for me right now, so what can I do to feel better?”
- Embrace yourself and accept your perceived failings as part of you, not as things to hate or ignore.
- Be more self-compassionate as a way of being better: research shows that people who are more self-compassionate are in fact healthier and more productive.
- Talk to yourself the way you’d talk to someone you love! If you wouldn’t berate a friend for a mistake, why talk to yourself that way?
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Audio for Relaxation and Meditation
"Join Alen Standish, a recovering perfectionist, as he talks candidly with everyday people and experts about perfectionism, procrastination, shame, anxiety and self-judgement as they try to overcome eating disorders (binge eating disorder, bulimia and anorexia), reach their ideal health, meet lifelong goals, create works of art or become entrepreneurs. Tons of tips, techniques and tools."
A library of guided meditations by clinical psychologist Tara Brach.
Get information on mindfulness, its benefits and a description of the "Puppy mind exercise."
Promotes the mental health of all Canadians and supports the resilience and recovery of people experiencing mental illness.
Offers skills for handling stress, depression, difficult emotions and body image.
You can talk to a trained peer who understands what you're going through and can point you to other resources.
Peer Support Centre (re-opening in the Fall)
Open daily from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. and offers active listening by trained peers who will listen to any of your concerns.
Nightline/Chatline (re-opening in the Fall)
For anonymous calls/chat messages every night from 6 p.m. to 3 a.m., no matter what you need to talk about.
Workshops and Groups
If you'd like professional support while hearing from peers in the same position, you can join a workshop or group.
Learn how to cope with perfectionism, build resilience and develop greater self-compassion in a workshop facilitated by a McGill clinician.
You must consult with a McGill clinician to register for group therapy, which provides support and therapy for a variety of issues.
Meet with a Professional
If you've tried resources on your own, or you'd like to receive greater support and care, you can meet with a professional on campus.
Book a consultation with a professional and put together a wellness plan.